Being a mom I never knew just how many questions, judgements and opinions come out the woodwork regarding you and your little ones. I will ALWAYS be in awe at how people honestly feel that they have a say so in what you do as a parent. First they want to know when you’re having a child as if you can see into the future. When you do get pregnant they want to know “was it an accident”? After you have the first baby people want to know when you’re having the second baby. Once you have two children you’ll have people telling you they hope your done… especially when you have a boy and a girl because “any child afterward is just a duplicate” . If you have two of the same-sex they want to know if you’re gonna try for a baby of the opposite sex. When you try and fail at producing one of the opposite sex now people will tell you to “just give up and be done” .
If you want more kids and can afford to have more kids than by all means… GO FOR IT! Dont let people dictate your life.
Besides being told how many and when to stop having children… everyone has an opinion on what you wanna name your child. Now im gonna give you some free advise. There is no name your going to come up with that everyone is going to like. So don’t change what you want to name YOUR baby. Those same people who hate the name when you’re pregnant will be the same ones who magically love the name once the baby is born. If they still don’t like the name its only because they SUCK!
Your judged if you don’t want your pregnant tummy rubbed because supposedly once your pregnant you give up the right to not be touched. People who had an easy pregnancy think you’re over-exagerrating your symptoms and don’t understand why you’re so miserable. People with hard pregnancies are ticked off because your pregnant and have the audacity to smile. People have opinions on stay-at home moms because “we don’t do nothing all day” . Yet if you choose to go to work “why don’t you want to be home with your child” and “why leave your child for someone else to raise” ? Your judged if you “do” have an epidural because people in the past didn’t use epidural and you should want to experience the WHOLE experience of having a baby. Your judged if you “don’t” have an epidural because “who are you trying to be… Superman”? If you don’t breastfeed your doing a disservice to your baby. If you do breastfeed don’t do it in public… your ONLY allowed to feed your baby in the darkest lowliest places of the earth. If you spank your child “your abusive”. If you don’t spank your child “you’re the reason why kids are so bad these days”. It never ends!
Parenting is a learning lesson. What works for one parent may not work for another.
Every pregnancy is different
Every child is different
Every parent is different
Every situation is diffrent
There are NO GUARANTEES in life. A great parent can raise a bad adult and a bad parent can raise a good adult. No matter how wonderful you try to be as a parent unfortunately you’re not your childs only influence. Someone will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have an opinion on what you’re doing and what you’re not doing. Theres nothing wrong with getting someones opinion or heeding advise. Theres nothing wrong with observing others and learning of other ways to handle stuff. For all the other unsolicited advise and opinions of others… Shut That Noise Out, Believe in yourself and be the best parent YOU can be 💖