I was talking to a dear friend of mine last week and we were discussing things weve learned this year about ourselves. I was telling her how currently im STRIVING to LOVE myself and being watchful to what I say about myself. It all started about a month ago actually… I looked in the mirror and thought I looked sooo ugly. I stared at my body and thought “Wow Terina, you really look nasty!” Then it hit me like a ton of bricks…. “WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?!? I would NEVER tell someone else they were ugly… let alone that they looked nasty! Why in the world would I talk to myself like that?!?!” It literally almost had me in tears as I thought about “myself” being a person and im talking to “this person” like that…. and to think ive been telling myself that for years! 😢
So for the past month thats what Ive been working on…. being VERY careful to ONLY speak great things about myself. As positive as I am towards others I need to be saying those same things to myself!
One thing I try to be is upbuilding to people. The biggest reason why is because I personally know what its like to be bullied & ripped apart. I just hadnt stop to think that I too am participating in ripping myself apart. Telling myself that im ugly, or stupid and body shaming myself and etc. Sometimes loving yourself feels like the hardest thing in the world. You try sooo many different things on yourself in the hopes of “finally” seeing yourself as something beautiful or admirable but in the end you still feel disappointed when you look in the mirror.
I found a quote on Facebook actually that someone shared and I thought it was soooo intresting.
And I quote: “Did you know that the way you feel about yourself mentally has a direct bearing on what you see in the mirror? 
“We’re eye doctors.”
“What’s something about the eye that most people don’t realize?”“The eye doesn’t see. The brain sees. The eye just transmits. So what we see isn’t only determined by what comes through the eyes. What we see is affected by our memories, our feelings, and by what we’ve seen before.”
If you too have been hard on yourself, doubting yourself, not loving or accepting yourself…. you may want to take a hard look in the mirror and see if what youre hating about yourself truly exists…. or have you just been brainwashed to believe you look or are a certain way?
We ALL have something beautiful about ourselves! Everyone is hiding something, covering over something, emphasizing something, changing something all in order to give the elusion they look a certain way. No One is Perfect!! DONT compare yourself to others and put YOUR best forward whatever and however that may be. Not for others but for yourself…. For Whitney Houston said it best “Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all. ”
“Be careful what you say to yourself because your listening”
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